Month: March 2014

Finding My True Calling: How looking outside myself guided me inward

Welcome! I hope today you are feeling good and inspired in your life.

Today I want to talk about the path to finding a true calling. I hope that this post brings you both affirmation and inspiration.

If you are like me, you may not have been born with that deep inner sense of your calling. Even the idea of a true calling has been a foreign concept to me. I have been a person who took cues from my environment. This means I tended to limit my definition of what was possible to what I was exposed to. I’ve learned that this is very normal behavior.

Early on, I learned a way to put this to my advantage — I learned to find things that are working for others and do what they do. I started doing this consciously in seventh grade when I was going to Alateen meetings. In Alateen someone told me once, “find someone who has what you want for yourself, and do what they do.” I’ve been doing my best at doing that ever since.

I’ll call this method the “Copy-Paste” method.

Copy-Paste Method

The method is really a pretty simple strategy. I think most people may already naturally do this to one degree or another. However, I still at times get stuck with making changes. There are various reasons I have gotten stuck in the past. To understand them I created the Copy-Paste roadmap to identify my blocks and get myself moving.

Here it is:

  1. Find the person who has what I want

  2. Connect with them

  3. Find ways to interact with them

Find the Person

To make the Copy-Paste method successful I have to have enough access to someone who has what I want in order to see, hear, and witness what they are doing. When I was young, before the internet, in order for me to connect I had to know the person, as they say now, “in real life”. With today’s social media, virtual mentoring, and online coaching, this is no longer true. Instead of being dependent upon the people I have localized access to, I can crowdsource the possibilities.

I use my internet/computer skills to connect to my social network, blogosphere, and websites to find people I would like to learn from. Also, a lot of these people are participating enough on the internet to actually see, hear, and witness what they are doing.

Still, finding people I don’t already know who have what I want means going places I don’t normally go, even when those places are virtual. However, since everyone is virtually connected to everyone within a few jumps it doesn’t mean I have to go far, so I start with direct connections.

To get started, all I have to do is to start searching for people who have what I want. Once I’ve found someone I’m ready for the next step, so I start by finding someone.

In my most recent example, I decided to connect with Tony Robbins.

Make the Connection

So now that I have determined the person to connect with, here comes the hard part…

In my experience, getting connected has less to do with real obstacles than it does with my own fear of connection. So for me this is the hardest part — finding that internal sense of value. One way I try to start is to “fake it until I make it”, so I just act as if I have the confidence needed to make the connection.

The action I need to take is to start talking to people I know about my desire to connect to Tony.

It normally works pretty damn fast. I already learned that a friend of mine knows a massage therapist that Tony Robbins uses on a regular basis. I just need to get the contact name and move along that string of people. I just need to keep talking to people about my desire for connection.

Also, while I work that connection string, I don’t have to wait.

Find Ways to Interact with the Connections

I used to think I had to make the connection before interacting. Now I know I can use my “fake it until I make it” strategy and start taking actions as if I had the connection.

For me this means setting an intention to attend a seminar or other event Tony Robbins will be putting on, following him on Twitter and Facebook, reading his web-site, and consuming books he has written. Everything I find, discover, read, and listen to is action I’m taking to Copy-Paste the change I want in my life.

With the Copy-Paste method I thought I would be on the road to unlimited success. In some ways I am but what I realized more recently was that this was just the beginning of what Dr. Wayne Dyer calls “a self-realized life.”

Evolution Beyond Copy-Paste

Once I started getting the results of changes in my behaviors and attitudes, I found that I was a lot less negative and more focused on positive outcomes. I found the Copy-Paste method was a great jumpstarter for getting out of negative, self-defeating attitudes and into a positive mindset.

Once my attitude shifted to a positive context I was able to get out of my own way, which allowed me to seek out more changes instead of being stuck justifying why I’m holding onto current beliefs, behaviors, and results.

This shift of mentality put me in a position for an evolution of my thinking. The evolution begins with an understanding of the nature of perception and the personal power I have.

This quote from Course in Miracles sums this up very well:  “Perception is but a mirror, not a fact. What I look on is my state of mind reflected outward.”

So I realized that in order to gain a new understanding of how I can change, I must start with a change in perception. I didn’t know how to do that, so I used the Copy-Paste method. I copied people I thought already had this change — people like Jesus, Ghandi, Buddha, and Amma. What they said they did and how they achieved their results was pretty clear. You already are what you desire to be. There is no change except to your perception.

They and others taught me that through humility, self-esteem, patience, and gratitude, I can evolve my perception. For me, the greatest struggle is the changing of my own self-esteem.

For as Norman Vincent Peale said, “Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”

Through therapy, meditation, and prayer I have learned a greater ability to accept that I am capable, lovable, and deserving. It is through communion with my higher self that I can achieve my highest and best.

Today I choose to believe that I am connected to a power greater than myself. For me that source lives in me, through me, without measure, and without compromise.

My realization is that it matters not if I am of any religious faith or spiritual approach. I must find a connection to the inner causes of my own pain and be willing to let those self-defeating beliefs go so I am are ready to truly find my own calling.

In the end no external transformation is needed. It is only letting go of a false sense of self that empowers me to change.

In the time between any two seconds there is enough time for me. Enough time for me to change. Enough time for me to accept who I really am and drop the disguise I have worn. Enough time to find my inner calling.

Today I chose to seek that inner calling and explore with you all that path. I hope that if you are not already on this path that you join me and if you are on this path that for a time we can travel together as fits our highest and best.

With my blessing I wish you all green lights.


My Funks Are Really Depression?

Welcome! I’m glad to be writing today. Thank you for coming to my blog.

This post is prompted by the Daily Prompt from The Daily Post. The prompt is: Singing the Blues.

This prompt inspired me because of my own history with discontentment, unhappiness, and depression in my own life.

This story begins for me in 2003 when I started therapy.

Before I started into this process I always thought depression was the result of serious mental illness and that you needed medication if you were affected by this serious issue. I never felt like I couldn’t leave my own house. I was always willing to do more and take on more. I was a productive member of society. I was sure I wasn’t suffering from depression.

As I began to discover the underpinnings of the sources my discontent and unhappiness in my life I began to awaken myself to a deeper understanding. It was this increasing awareness of my subconscious influences and of my underlying beliefs that gave my first insight into my relationship with depression.

For most of my adult life I would have periods of being down. I would describe these episodes as being in a funk. I remember describing this funk to my therapist one time to which he replied, “That sounds like you are depressed.”

That single comment gave me an entirely new understanding of depression and how it affected me. Depression went from being something serious and debilitating to being something more commonplace and manageable. In addition, it meant that my funks weren’t some natural rhythm of mood outside my control, they were a result of a pattern of behavior, belief, and assumptions I was making.

As I started to think of these periods when my mood was down as depression, I got very excited. Funks I can’t do anything about, but depression I can!

I found through more therapy that there were three causes of my funks:

  1. Anger at situations and people that either I was not consciously aware of or felt could not be expressed
  2. Anger towards myself that I turned inward, i.e. guilt
  3. A sense of powerlessness developed by my attempts to control others

As I have learned healthy ways to address these underlying issues, my funks have gone away.

For anger towards others, I do take time to express my anger in ways that don’t hurt others, e.g. journaling my frustrations, calling a safe friend and having them give me two or three minutes to vent about the situation, creating lists of things I will do to make a positive impact on a situation, punching a pillow or other safe expression of energy, etc.

For anger towards myself I mostly Gestalt with myself and determine how in the future I will be different. I also seek out support from friends and, when needed, therapists.

For that sense of powerlessness, I do much of the above as well as listing the things that are outside my control and praying to gain acceptance. I find the Serenity Prayer to be a good tool in times such as these.

But what I try to not do is discount my feelings, ignore them, or let them come out sideways. Being honest about my feelings and taking care of myself and my needs has been the road tbe be free of depression,

I hope that if you suffer from funks or mild depression that you to can find freedom from it. We can survive periods such as these. But in order to thrive we must express our feelings and empower ourselves to accept the things we cannot change and to change the things we can.

With love and blessing my wish for you is happiness and joy!


The World is an Awesome and Diverse Place

Welcome! Today my blog post is prompted once again by DungeonPrompts. This week the prompt asks me to introduce you to a blogger that I find interesting.

My first challenge! What do I find the most interesting in other people’s blogs. It comes to this. I personally find blogs that challenge my way of thinking about people, places, and things as the most interesting. And a blog that can help me extend my view of all three is likely highest on my list.  I look for something more than content. I look for the heart of the writer. I look for a desire to express one’s convictions.

So today I’m glad to introduce you to Anawnimiss.

Anawnimiss is a hidden person. Or as she puts it “…a…woman who chooses to be without a face”

She writes about things, places, and people that I am only vaguely familiar with. This is to be expected as she is an Indian Woman living in Delhi and I am an American male living in Seattle.

She writes on things that matter to her and impact her modern life. She puts it forth with conviction. This something I greatly admire.

I first became aware of her here on wordpress just a few days ago. Since then I’ve read more of her posts and will continue to follow her here forward.

She writes about the things that matter to her. A wise dude once told me, in order for something to matter it has to mean something. So I find meaning in her posts. Her posts are relevant to me because I to am also facing the individual story of being human. Although our circumstances and experiences are different I can feel the humanity of her expressions. Her writing invokes an empathetic response in me.

The post that got me hooked on her writing is this one, OF NASTY THINGS, LIKE SEX AND MASTURBATION

Here is an excerpt from that post:

Such is the state of affairs in India. Women can’t have sex before they’re married. Living in with someone makes you a whore. If you’re divorced, it must be because you were having sex with someone else. Because sex is bad. Masturbation is worse. You know what, this bothers me. I did mention this briefly earlier, but I think this issue deserves a full-blown post.

Sex is natural. So is masturbation. And no, masturbation is not only for people who aren’t getting any. Actually, masturbation is important because it teaches you what you want. Sex is an acquired skill, much like playing an instrument. Can you hope to master bharatnatyam without learning to use your hands properly? Nahin, na? Why should sex be treated any differently?

With my first reading I could hear her passion and conviction to be a force for change in India on this important topic.

I hope that you find her demonstrated convictions, heart felt presentation, and positive action for change interesting and fun to read.

Thank you for coming to my blog today. May god bless and encourage you in your convictions.

Predicting The Future: A life long pursuit to control time.


All we have is this moment. Each second that passes in our lives is like a grain of sand slipping away. With desperation, we can try, try, try to hold on and savor every moment. Yet the time just slips away. Our attention is drawn forever forward by an unstoppable force that no amount of willpower can arrest.

When I was a kid I was always focused on what was happening around me. My attention was fixed not in an attempt to savor the moment, nor to ensure that I got all that life had to offer. I was instead trying to predict the future. Trying to determine my next course of action. Ready for anything but expecting the worst. I lived in a self-made world of readiness. Anxiety loaded, a minuteman ready for life’s dramas. Always expecting the other shoe to drop.

As I grew into adulthood I became better at controlling my fear by constructing a chain of obligations and commitments that made me feel safe — a self-imposed workload with its only desired outcome to create a sense of safety. I was trying to control the future so that nothing would surprise me. So nothing would disappoint me. So I would be loved. I lived in a self-made world of obligation. Anxiety loaded, a minuteman ready to over-commit. (See my post on work-life balance.)

This over-commitment lifestyle, however, brought me no more happiness. In order to distract me from my fears I had to take on harder and harder problems. I wasn’t satisfied when anything was taken care of. I didn’t count my accomplishments because I was always afraid of the future.

I continued to evolve my skills and capabilities at project and technical management until I had developed a really good ability to actually predict outcomes of the teams of people I worked with — not in some psychic way, but with project management skills — the ability to see the patterns of projects happening in the moment, use those patterns to determine undesired vectors, and then apply pressure to get things “back on track.”

I could predict the future!!! I got compliments from people. I earned a reputation for being good at fixing projects. I had learned the masterful skill of applying my life-long hyper awareness to the complex world of software project management. I should have felt safe. I should have felt loved.

Alas, this was not the case. The more I tried to get into the future the farther I was getting away from happiness. By 2002 I’d worn out all my futurizing methods to feel safe and become happy. It was then that I realized my method was flawed at its very core. I needed something different. I needed to make a dramatic change. I needed to stop trying to make people love me by building dependence on me. I needed to stop trying to win at work by being “right”.

It was sometime in 2003 that someone told me I should practice “being”. I had no idea what that meant. Being? What do you do when you are being?

People kind of chuckled at my questions and said, “just be”. I had some anger at that answer. After a while I actually just stopped listening when someone told me to just be. I just couldn’t understand being.

But somewhere along the line I started learning to “live in the moment”. As I started to change, I found more and more that I cared less and less about the future outcomes of things. I stopped worrying about dates and obligations for the future. I became more and more focused on the moment. In fact the more I focused on the moment, not only the happier I became, but the better I became at being a husband, father, and Project Manager.

For now I could see the patterns and instead of worrying about the future, just started taking action to change things in the moment. I don’t like making schedules. I like making lists. I like analyzing complex problems and determining the course of action needed to get the project complete. I like getting people working on that list. I like helping them secure the tools, resources, and help they need to get things done.

I like solving problems by taking action. AND you know what? Somewhere I learned to stop worrying about the future. Somewhere along the line I stopped trying to control the future and started to just create the moment. Somewhere along the way I learned to feel loved just for who I am.

Today as I was in meetings discussing projects and problems, I started to feel that old way. I started to feel anxious. As I drove home I considered why I was feeling this way. As I got centered there in the traffic of Seattle, I came back to the moment and the anxiety went away. I was just able to BE. I realized somewhere along the line I had learned that to “just BE”, all I needed was “to be in the moment.” Today I know al little better what they meant when they told me to learn to BE.

I continue to learn everyday. Today was a good day for learning. I gained a deeper understanding that the secret to happiness for me is living in the moment — being in the moment.

Thank you for reading my blog and sharing this learning with me. I appreciate you. May you have the love, happiness, and serenity you rightly deserve.

Work-Life Balance : Commitments and Boundaries

Welcome! Thank you stopping by. It is a great pleasure to write these articles.

I have spent my career working in the high-tech industry. The high-tech industry has provided me with steady work and great opportunities to grow and succeed for more than 20 years. During my career, one of the greatest struggles I’ve had is the management of my personal work-life balance. In this post I’m going to explain a few things I’ve done as part of effectively managing myself to achieve my desired work-life balance.

Work-life balance is almost a joke in many companies. Most of high-tech industry has set the work hours between 45 and 50 per week. I’m not talking about expected overtime. This 45-50 is the normal work week. Add on top of that the expectation of extra effort and you are finding yourself working 60 hour weeks.

Early in my career, I started out as a software engineer and then moved into project management. I remember one especially tough time in my career when, for a period of two years, I worked more than 60 hours per week. Sometimes I would work more than 40 hours in a row. The longest single working session was 68 hours without stopping.

As you can imagine this kind of workload was due to many factors that also increased my personal stress load. Eventually I had a 3 am panic attack at work.

This led to a recalibration of my work-life balance. In the re-calibration I did find a lot of relief from many of the factors that impacted project performance. I was relieved from much of my stress and I’m glad to say I’ve never had a repeat of the events that led to my panic attack.

The following are a set of rights and their corresponding boundaries I developed to help me avoid the kind of catastrophic issues that led to my sense of overwhelm at work. These boundaries evolved from many things but their core comes from the “Teflon Coating” I talked about in my blog post on Commitment and the Developer’s Bill Of Rights identified by Steve McConnell in his book The Software Project Survival Guide. You can find them referenced in this article on the Tales of Agile Software Development blog.

These personal boundaries helped me in moving away from 60+ hour work weeks, the overwhelming feelings of inadequacy, and the failure to produce top quality work products. They are:

  • It is expected that the project sponsors, customers, and leadership will set the project objectives and clarify priorities. — Boundary: I will not work in an environment where objectives and priorities are not clear.
  • It is expected that I will be given detailed descriptions in enough clarity for me to understand the  products I am to create. — Boundary: I will not work on tasks where the requirements and specifications are unclear to me.
  • It is expected that I will be allowed to work with customers, managers, and other team members where the entire organization is held to the same project commitments. — Boundary: I will not be held to project deadlines that are not shared by all of the team members, customers, and leadership team members.
  • It is expected that I am allowed to work in a technically responsible way, so as not to be forced to implement the product until the design is completed. — Boundary: I will not start coding before the design is completed.
  • I will determine the effort and schedule estimates for any work I am to perform. — Boundary: I will not be held to deadlines determined by estimates I did not create.
  • I am allowed to accurately report my work effort so that the entire team can review the estimates and commitments during the execution of the project. — Boundary #1: I will not work on projects where there is no allowed estimation error; Boundary #2: When additional requirements are revealed to me I will re-estimate my effort and update my estimate for completion.
  • I will work in a productive environment free from frequent interruptions and distractions, especially during critical parts of the project. — Boundary: I will not work if my environment is not conducive to effective work effort. Specifically, my environment should be clear of any distractions be they sights, sounds, or smells.
  • My involvement in activities (training, meetings, etc..) that do not directly affect my work products will be minimal, and I will be supported in reducing effort on tasks that do not add value to the execution of my work, unless to do so would cause potential financial harm to the company. — Boundary: I will not allow anyone to add additional work to my plate that is not scheduled into my normal work time.
  • My teammates are responsible for holding their own boundaries and obtaining the levels of productivity they commit to. — Boundary: I will not be held responsible for the lack of productivity or boundaries of others.
  • When I am working on creating estimates, it’s my responsibility to ensure that I have thought through the entire problem I’m having presented to me, and to ensure that my estimates are accurate and complete to the best of my knowledge. — Boundary: I will not commit to estimates that I do not believe I can complete.
  • When my actual effort and schedule do not match my estimates I will notify the management of my project as soon as possible so they are aware and can take the appropriate action. — Boundary: I will not act like I’m making effective progress when I am not.
  • Progress towards any significant work effort is completed in manageable work tasks. I will decompose the project into a set of work products using an effective work methodology that allows me to finish visible and complete work products at least once every two weeks. — Boundary: I will produce a solid work product that others can review and use at least as frequently as once every two weeks.

By implementing and holding to these boundaries I have found that two things happen:

  1. My efforts are more directed, focused, and effective. I achieve greater results for my efforts.
  2. With these boundaries I am taking responsibility of my work load and commitments.

This means that if I am having trouble maintaining a work-life balance, it is up to me to fix the problem, either by living by my boundaries, or by changing my commitments.

I know that as you read this you may have strong reactions as to why these boundaries are hard. You may feel that the company you work for won’t allow you to hold them.

You have hundreds if not thousands of reasons to think that. I can only offer that, like you, I also felt that way. But by doing my best at holding my boundaries and taking ownership of the problems I face, I have transformed my experiences and found great relief from the anxiety that led me to a poor work-life balance.

Thank you so much for coming to read this post. I hope that you are feeling blessed, and your life is filled with hope.

What Does Love Look Like?

Welcome! Today I’m writing a post prompted once again by the DungeonPrompt. The prompt this week is “What Does Love Look Like?”

I love the word love.
Love is the energy of the sun upon my back warming me while I walk on a cool beach here in the Northwest.
Love is the empathy that brings tears to my eyes when I hear the pain borne by a friend in their childhood.
Love is my grandmother rubbing my eight-year-old toes after I had gone into a rage at my brother.
Love is the smell of my grandfather’s roast that has cooked all the while we went to church.
Love is the librarian at the Wasilla Public library who put me to work shelving books when I came there after school when I was struggling the most with my family.
Love is the presence of God listening to me when I walked alone on the college campus lost when my roommates had pressured me to move out by playing cruel jokes on me.
Love is the money my grandfather sent when I was almost unable to pay for school.
Love is a feeling that comes over me when I see my children.

I feel like there is a simple story to tell to explain how far away from love I once felt even though I know now that I was never without love.

When I was 15 I was homeless in Alaska and winter was coming. I was filled with anger and hurt. I was known to my family as having a heart of ice. I cared for no one’s feelings. I enjoyed making fun of people and sometimes hurting them physically. During this time I was disconnected from God and, it can be said, felt no joy in my life.

But even in this place God and people would not abandon me. A parent came to our school one day. She was there to tell us about what it was like to become a Certified Public Accountant (CPA). I was mesmerized. At that very moment, in what was my darkest time, I saw a light — a light that I could become something. I could do what she did and learn to be an accountant. I could overcome all the circumstances in my life, get a master’s degree, and become a CPA.

Some people dream of being pro-football players. Some people dream of being actors. I dreamed of being a CPA. The warmth of that dream gave me warmth on cold nights. The universe had heard my plea from deep inside my despair and brought me an answer. I took that lifeline as a way out of the pain.

I still believe that the CPA who came to talk to us that day kept me from doing something more drastic to get attention and cope with my pain. The hope she gave me was tangible and I call that gift she gave me Love.

Love is the thing that happens when I put my ego aside and humbly fill my heart with gratitude, while I wait for the universe to hear my prayers and engage me in the act of creation.

I am love. You are love. We are love.

The Power In My Name

Welcome! Thank you for coming to read my post.

Today I sat at a different desk for a time so I could be near the sunshine. When I mentioned this to other people in the office they looked at me as if I’m crazy because the sky was clouded over. I explained that I consider all natural light as sunshine, be it through the clouds or not.

Then I saw this post from Sreejit on his blog The Seekers Dungeon about his name and his relationship to it, and then read the DailyPost WordPress Blog prompt: THE POWER OF NAMES.

This post is in response to their prompt.

The idea of the power of names got me thinking about my naming of the light earlier in the day, and this got me thinking about the power of words in general.

As a manager I’ve learned through anecdotal observation about the power of my words. The power to create expectation and define projects. Through my words I define the acceptability of work performance for my team. By the use of labels I apply to the outcomes from the work of others I define their level of success. I define many things by the names I give them.

This observation doesn’t come to me without some amount of awe at the level of personal power we all have. My realization is that we each and all have great power via our words. The realization comes with some desire to live up to that power.

That’s not to say I came to this realization through some epiphany. To the contrary, I’ve been learning about the personal power of our words from some pretty great people — specifically, Don Miguel Ruiz, Byron Katie, and Anthony Robbins.

As I mentioned in my post on Secrets, Don Miguel Ruiz charges us to be impeccable with our word. Ruiz’s assertion is that our words are like spells. Spells we cast with the power of our voice. His challenge therefore is far greater than just living in integrity. We must strive to not only keep from saying things that break us down, but also to use the power we have to achieve our highest and best. It’s not enough to just exist. We must celebrate and thrive through the use of our words.

Byron Katie calls upon us to look at our version of reality as our projection of our internal fears onto the world, to run our words through a process she calls The Work. She challenges us to turn our words around. By turning our negative judgments of others into positive affirmations we can look at the world through a different lens. By turning our words back on ourselves we can see how our judgments are really fueled by our own low self esteem and fear of how we might be seen in the world.

Anthony Robbins challenges us to reprogram our brains usingNeuro-linguistic programming. Tony’s recipe for our transformation starts with the words we use — to use our language to reprogram our brains.

So with this wisdom and understanding of the power of words, I look back upon my relationship to my name. You might question the use of the word “relationship”, but I think it may be a more powerful relationship than any other relationship I’ve had. You see, my name is the single representation of my entire being. Invoking it invokes all of my conscious and subconscious beliefs about myself.

The name David James Kester was given to me by my mom. Named for my father, David E. Kester, and grandfather, James McLoed. I was almost instantly seen as a replication of these men — not only a genetic prodigy, but in some ways as a surrogate for them, at times taking the anger that should have been directed at them, at other times falling short of living up to the model they represented.

The strong stoic image my grandfather presented was a high bar that as a young man I could never reach, while my father’s search for release from inner demons irritated folks and left them wondering about his capabilities, morals, and ethics. I had the demanding task of creating a new concept of self while still operating in their shadows.

From my earliest memories I can still recall my mother telling me I was just like my dad. In middle school I became bitter towards my father, focusing on his shortcomings. In my high school years I was referred to as “Little D”, which, when I was feeling down, I saw as a pejorative. As a result, I was often sarcastic about it.

As I grew into adulthood my greatest struggle was in earning my own reputation and a name for myself. For twenty years, I could not seem to throw this name off. Internally I was still “less than”.

Now I know it was because I did not understand the power I was giving to the names others gave me. In my codependence, I could not separate and create my own reality. I could not name myself.

Then in 2003 I began to transform that codependent attitude — I stopped going by “David” and started going by “Dave”. I began to define myself in my terms. For a while I would even sign my emails “Dvae”, making use of a typo to differentiate even further my internal state of myself from the names others applied to me.

As I began to define myself in my terms, the name David James Kester began to take a more complex form — a man defined not by the definitions of my family, but instead by my own definitions. A man worthy of the name. A man who strives to do his work, adhere to his principles, and to believe in himself. A creator, a father, a mentor, a guide, a way shower, a light to others.

My dad passed away years ago now. I have not been called “Little D” in almost half a decade. But I know that today, even being called that, I would no longer let that name define me. I define my own name. I am  in charge of finding and determining my destiny. I am in love with the name Dave because in one syllable, I can define the very complex person I am. In those four letters, I can let anyone know the power of me. I can share my dreams with you. I can share my wisdom with you. I can share my life with you. Just through the sharing of my name, you can come to know me.